{"id":5735,"date":"2014-02-04T15:17:19","date_gmt":"2014-02-04T19:17:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/igrundun.wordpress.com\/?p=5735"},"modified":"2014-02-04T15:17:19","modified_gmt":"2014-02-04T19:17:19","slug":"hvad-er-ofyrirgefanlegt","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/2014\/02\/04\/hvad-er-ofyrirgefanlegt\/","title":{"rendered":"Hva\u00f0 er \u00f3fyrirgefanlegt?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00deegar H\u00e1sk\u00f3li \u00cdslands leita\u00f0i til J\u00f3ns Baldvins Hannibalssonar um um a\u00f0 kenna hluta af n\u00e1mskei\u00f0i vi\u00f0 sk\u00f3lann, skrifu\u00f0u tv\u00e6r konur br\u00e9f. Inntak br\u00e9fsins<\/a> var a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r t\u00f6ldu a\u00f0 einstaklingur sem haf\u00f0i sannanlega vi\u00f0haft kynfer\u00f0islega tilbur\u00f0i gagnvart barni og haf\u00f0i skrifa\u00f0 l\u00fdsingar \u00e1 heims\u00f3knum til v\u00e6ndiskvenna \u00feegar hann var \u00ed opinberum erindagj\u00f6r\u00f0um \u00ed l\u00f6ndunum sem honum var \u00e6tla\u00f0 a\u00f0 kenna um, \u00e6tti ekki heima sem kennari vi\u00f0 H\u00e1sk\u00f3lann.<\/p>\n

\u00der\u00e1tt fyrir a\u00f0 \u00fea\u00f0 v\u00e6ri ekki or\u00f0a\u00f0 me\u00f0 beinum h\u00e6tti \u00ed br\u00e9fi \u00feeirra, \u00fe\u00e1 m\u00e1 \u00f6llum vera lj\u00f3st a\u00f0 vera J\u00f3ns Baldvins Hannibalssonar \u00ed valdast\u00f6\u00f0u kennara vi\u00f0 H\u00e1sk\u00f3lann hef\u00f0i veri\u00f0 \u00f3gn vi\u00f0 \u00feolendur kynfer\u00f0isofbeldis sem hef\u00f0u hugsanlega \u00feurft a\u00f0 sitja undir kennslu hans og vart sk\u00f3lanum til framdr\u00e1ttar a\u00f0 einstaklingur sem haf\u00f0i sannanlega misnota\u00f0 s\u00e9r ney\u00f0 kvenna \u00ed Eystrarsaltsr\u00edkjum v\u00e6ri fenginn til a\u00f0 kenna um st\u00f6\u00f0u \u00feeirra.<\/p>\n

M\u00e1l J\u00f3ns Baldvins Hannibalssonar var leyst me\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 H\u00e1sk\u00f3li \u00cdslands ba\u00f0 J\u00f3n afs\u00f6kunar \u00e1 a\u00f0 hafa dregi\u00f0 bei\u00f0nina um kennslu til baka og greiddi honum b\u00e6tur. Hildur Lilliendahl hefur r\u00e9ttilega bent \u00e1 a\u00f0 \u00e1kv\u00f6r\u00f0un J\u00f3ns Baldvins Hannibalssonar um a\u00f0 \u00feiggja b\u00e6tur, gefi til kynna a\u00f0 J\u00f3n Baldvin Hannibalssonar skilji ekki alvarleika m\u00e1lsins<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Gunnar Bj\u00f6rnsson, \u00fe\u00e1 prestur \u00e1 Selfossi, braut \u00e1 s\u00ednum t\u00edma kynfer\u00f0islega gegn unglingsst\u00falkum, \u00fer\u00e1tt fyrir a\u00f0 H\u00e6stir\u00e9ttur k\u00e6mist a\u00f0 \u00fev\u00ed a\u00f0 heg\u00f0un hans hef\u00f0i ekki broti\u00f0 gegn l\u00f6gum. Af l\u00f6gformlegum \u00e1st\u00e6\u00f0um gat kirkjan ekki sagt Gunnari upp, en f\u00e6r\u00f0i hann til \u00ed starfi og greiddi honum laun um langa hr\u00ed\u00f0.<\/p>\n

\u00deessi m\u00e1l eru tilt\u00f6lulega einf\u00f6ld, \u00fe.e. flestir skynsamir einstaklingar sj\u00e1 \u00ed hendi s\u00e9r hversu \u00f3e\u00f0lilegt \u00fea\u00f0 er a\u00f0 leyfa \u00feekktum ofbeldism\u00f6nnum a\u00f0 sitja \u00ed valdast\u00f6\u00f0um, hva\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 a\u00f0 bj\u00f3\u00f0a \u00feeim valdast\u00f6\u00f0ur \u00fear sem \u00feeir eiga tilt\u00f6lulega au\u00f0velt me\u00f0 a\u00f0 misnota v\u00f6ld s\u00edn, e\u00f0a eru \u00f3gnun vi\u00f0 a\u00f0ra me\u00f0 veru sinni.<\/p>\n

H\u00e9r er r\u00e9tt a\u00f0 gera \u00feann fyrirvara a\u00f0 ofbeldismenn eru ekki s\u00e9r\u00fej\u00f3\u00f0flokkur, a\u00f0greindur fr\u00e1 okkur hinum \u00e1 einn e\u00f0a neinn h\u00e1tt, vi\u00f0 erum \u00f6ll h\u00e6f til a\u00f0 nota ofbeldi \u00ed samskiptum, \u00e1 sama h\u00e1tt og vi\u00f0 erum \u00f6ll h\u00e6f til a\u00f0 s\u00fdna g\u00f3\u00f0mennsku og k\u00e6rleika. \u00deegar \u00e9g v\u00edsa h\u00e9r til ofbeldismanna \u00fe\u00e1 er \u00e9g a\u00f0 v\u00edsa til einstaklinga sem hafa sannanlega nota\u00f0 ofbeldi til a\u00f0 koma vilja s\u00ednum fram.<\/p>\n

Fl\u00f3knari spurningar felast \u00ed vangaveltunum um hvernig vi\u00f0 t\u00f6kumst \u00e1 vi\u00f0 fr\u00e6\u00f0iranns\u00f3knir sem unnar hafa veri\u00f0 af ofbeldism\u00f6nnum e\u00f0a breg\u00f0umst vi\u00f0 listaverkum sk\u00f6pu\u00f0um af ofbeldism\u00f6nnum.<\/p>\n

\u00c1 \u00feessum vef \u00ed dag, fjalla\u00f0i \u00e9g um grein John H. Yoder um samspil kristni og l\u00fd\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0is<\/a>. \u00dea\u00f0 er hafi\u00f0 yfir vafa a\u00f0 um \u00e1ratugaskei\u00f0 braut Yoder \u00edtreka\u00f0 kynfer\u00f0islega \u00e1 kvenf\u00f3lki sem voru \u00ed n\u00e1mi hj\u00e1 honum og\/e\u00f0a st\u00f6rfu\u00f0u me\u00f0 honum. \u00der\u00e1tt fyrir \u00feetta tel \u00e9g a\u00f0 hugmyndir hans um l\u00fd\u00f0r\u00e6\u00f0i skipti m\u00e1li, \u00fe\u00f3 \u00fea\u00f0 s\u00e9 vissulega mikilv\u00e6gt a\u00f0 velta fyrir s\u00e9r merkingu \u00feess a\u00f0 Yoder leitast vi\u00f0 a\u00f0 skilgreina sj\u00e1lfan sig og tr\u00faarsko\u00f0anir s\u00ednar sem minnihlutahreyfingu, sem \u00fearfnist varnar.<\/p>\n

\u00c1 sama h\u00e1tt m\u00e1 velta fyrir s\u00e9r hvort a\u00f0 gu\u00f0fr\u00e6\u00f0ilegar hugmyndir Karl Barth um hj\u00f3nabandi\u00f0 s\u00e9u marklausar \u00ed lj\u00f3si hans eigin l\u00edfs, hvort og hvernig vi\u00f0 hlustum \u00e1 John Lennon syngja Imagine<\/em> og Give Peace a Change<\/em>, \u00ed lj\u00f3si \u00feess ofbeldis sem hann beitti fyrri konu s\u00edna. \u00de\u00e1 m\u00e1 velta fyrir s\u00e9r tr\u00faver\u00f0ugleika Bill Clinton, sem misnota\u00f0i st\u00f6\u00f0u s\u00edna gagnvart starfsnema \u00ed Hv\u00edta h\u00fasinu.<\/p>\n

M\u00e1l Woody Allen er af sama mei\u00f0i. \u00dea\u00f0 er hafi\u00f0 yfir allan vafa a\u00f0 heg\u00f0un Allen \u00feegar kemur a\u00f0 valdast\u00f6\u00f0u og kynfer\u00f0ism\u00e1lum er brengla\u00f0. S\u00fa \u00e1kv\u00f6r\u00f0un hans a\u00f0 ganga a\u00f0 eiga n\u00faverandi konu s\u00edna, sem um t\u00edma var d\u00f3ttir samb\u00fdliskonu hans er misnotkun \u00e1 valdi. Fr\u00e1s\u00f6gn Dylan Farrow styrkir og d\u00fdpkar \u00fe\u00e1 mynd sem Allen teikna\u00f0i sj\u00e1lfur af s\u00e9r sem ofbeldismanni me\u00f0 kynfer\u00f0islegu sambandi s\u00ednu vi\u00f0 d\u00f3ttur samb\u00fdliskonu sinnar.<\/p>\n

Spurningin sem vi\u00f0 ver\u00f0um a\u00f0 spyrja okkur er hvort og hvernig \u00feessi vitneskja m\u00f3tar og hefur \u00e1hrif \u00e1 list Allen. Eru myndirnar hans kannski margar hverjar tilraun til a\u00f0 f\u00e1 sam\u00feykki og vi\u00f0urkenningu \u00e1 markaleysinu. Er Allen e.t.v. a\u00f0 reyna \u00ed list sinni, \u00e1 svipa\u00f0an h\u00e1tt og Yoder sem \u00e9g nefndi h\u00e9r \u00e1\u00f0ur, a\u00f0 skilgreina sig sem f\u00f3rnarlamb, til \u00feess eins a\u00f0 r\u00e9ttl\u00e6ta fyrir sj\u00e1lfum s\u00e9r ofbeldisheg\u00f0un s\u00edna. Ef svo er, hvernig n\u00e1lgumst vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1 list hans? T\u00f6kum vi\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e1tt \u00ed listinni, getum vi\u00f0 noti\u00f0 myndanna, ef sk\u00f6pun \u00feeirra er tilraun til sj\u00e1lfsr\u00e9ttl\u00e6tingar ofbeldismanns?<\/p>\n

\u00dea\u00f0 eru au\u00f0vita\u00f0 engin endanleg sv\u00f6r. \u00dea\u00f0 m\u00e1 f\u00e6ra fyrir \u00fev\u00ed r\u00f6k a\u00f0 \u00feegar lista- og fr\u00e6\u00f0imenn sleppa hendinni af verkum s\u00ednum, hafi \u00feeir \u00ed raun glata\u00f0 yfirr\u00e1\u00f0um s\u00ednum og t\u00falkunarm\u00f6guleikum og listin lifi sj\u00e1lfst\u00e6\u00f0u l\u00edfi.<\/p>\n

Eitt er hins vegar lj\u00f3st. \u00der\u00e1tt fyrir a\u00f0 e.t.v. s\u00e9 fl\u00f3ki\u00f0 a\u00f0 meta r\u00e9tt og rangt \u00feegar kemur a\u00f0 listsk\u00f6pun og fr\u00e6\u00f0imennsku ofbeldismanna, \u00fe\u00e1 er alls ekki fl\u00f3ki\u00f0 a\u00f0 skilja a\u00f0 \u00e1kv\u00f6r\u00f0un um a\u00f0 veita \u00feeim ekki \u00e1hrifavald \u00ed kennslur\u00fdmi e\u00f0a \u00ed kirkjunni er mun au\u00f0veldari og auglj\u00f3sari.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u00deegar H\u00e1sk\u00f3li \u00cdslands leita\u00f0i til J\u00f3ns Baldvins Hannibalssonar um um a\u00f0 kenna hluta af n\u00e1mskei\u00f0i vi\u00f0 sk\u00f3lann, skrifu\u00f0u tv\u00e6r konur br\u00e9f. Inntak br\u00e9fsins var a\u00f0 \u00fe\u00e6r t\u00f6ldu a\u00f0 einstaklingur sem haf\u00f0i sannanlega vi\u00f0haft kynfer\u00f0islega tilbur\u00f0i gagnvart barni og haf\u00f0i skrifa\u00f0 l\u00fdsingar \u00e1 heims\u00f3knum til v\u00e6ndiskvenna \u00feegar hann var \u00ed opinberum erindagj\u00f6r\u00f0um \u00ed l\u00f6ndunum sem honum … Continue reading Hva\u00f0 er \u00f3fyrirgefanlegt?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wds_primary_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[39,45,159],"class_list":["post-5735","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-islenska","tag-crap","tag-deeds","tag-violence"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5735","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=5735"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5735\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=5735"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=5735"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=5735"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}