{"id":1748,"date":"2010-07-19T16:08:21","date_gmt":"2010-07-19T20:08:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ispeculate.wpmudev.host\/main\/?p=1748"},"modified":"2010-07-19T16:08:21","modified_gmt":"2010-07-19T20:08:21","slug":"vocabulary-co-dependency","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/2010\/07\/19\/vocabulary-co-dependency\/","title":{"rendered":"Vocabulary: Co-Dependency"},"content":{"rendered":"<blockquote><p>&#8220;Co-Dependency&#8221; is a term used for a systematic deficiency in relationships in which a person either subordinates his or her life to another&#8217;s or uses his or her life to control or dominate another&#8217;s.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>From <em>Clinical, Clerical, and Congregational Co-Dependency<\/em> by Donald R. Hands (Action Information, September\/October 1990)<\/p>\n<p>In his writing Rev. Hands uses a co-dependency graph, where distance, differentiation, and individuation are on one axis, and relationship, connectedness, and closeness are on the other.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>When Y is min, and X is min &#8211; Nothing matters<\/li>\n<li>When Y is max, and X is min &#8211; I matter, and you don&#8217;t<\/li>\n<li>When Y is min, and X is max &#8211; You matter, I don&#8217;t<\/li>\n<li>When Y is max, and X is max &#8211; I matter, you matter<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8220;Co-Dependency&#8221; is a term used for a systematic deficiency in relationships in which a person either subordinates his or her life to another&#8217;s or uses his or her life to control or dominate another&#8217;s. From Clinical, Clerical, and Congregational Co-Dependency by Donald R. Hands (Action Information, September\/October 1990) In his writing Rev. Hands uses a &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/2010\/07\/19\/vocabulary-co-dependency\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Vocabulary: Co-Dependency<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"wds_primary_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[37,63,126],"class_list":["post-1748","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-english","tag-counseling","tag-family","tag-relationship"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1748","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1748"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1748\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1748"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1748"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/ispeculate.net\/writings\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1748"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}